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I went on a date with someone I met on a dating app and it quickly went downhill. During dinner, he kept talking about his virginity and asked if I was a virgin too. Things got worse when he admitted he hadn’t told his friends about the date because he was worried they might be racist. The evening was filled with awkward comments about my race as he tried to see if I was “whitewashed” enough. To top it off, he rated me an 8 out of 10, saying I’d be a 10 if I were taller but that I should be happy with an 8 because it’s a high number. He also mentioned that my ass was the first thing he noticed. I felt devalued by the end of the date. Despite this, I continued seeing him for a while, but I’m grateful it eventually ended. 

OK first, I am very happy that you are no longer with this guy. Secondly, I am so sorry. I knew people had bad experiences on dating apps, but this is one that takes the cake. I hope that after everything you went through with this person, you learned that you are worth way more than the way you were treated. If you didn’t, then let me tell you. You deserve better than that, you are a wonderful person who deserves the best in a relationship and everything else as well.  

This article was originally published in print Volume 24, Issue 3 on Thursday, November 7.